How to build real confidence? How to be confident
There are several successful people, who praise their wisdom of character and confidence in their success in life. But they feel very inflexible to explain how to build confidence, or how they developed they’re self-confident. I know that it is very complicated since confidence gets developed based on various elements. Generally, confidence is built on your accomplishments and choices that nourish your passion and make you feel proud and happy with who you are. The most important and worthwhile goal of your life is, maybe to identify such elements, that will contribute to developing your self-confidence to accomplish the dreams of your choice.
Be happy! You at the right place and reading this article… To change your life completely…
I will share with you a wide range of options to improve your self-confidence. The higher number of actions you take, the higher the level of your self-confidence will be!
Once an American poet “E.E. Cummings” said that, when you believe in yourself, you risk wonder, curiosity, delight, or any experience that makes known the human spirit.
Let me share my experience, I also believe that others might have experienced the same. There was an enemy that always put me back from realizing my dreams for several years. If I say for more than a decade, then it will be true. Do you know who that culprit was?
That was me and my fear of failure! And the lack of self-confidence. I was desperate like anything to overcome my fear. You will be amazed to know that it is normal and almost everybody faces, either its magnitude small or high. The lack of self-confidence may be because of a fear or phobia, now the question arises either you call it fear or phobia, but how to you can overcome it and how to improve your self-confidence?
Although, I still face those phobias and fears occasionally and undeniably, here and now I know how to beat them. I am very much familiar to come out from the phobic situations and fear. I have already done it successfully, several times now, and that success fueled me for more success.
Be in charge and take control of your self-confidence!
Do you feel low in self-confidence? YES or NO
If your answer is “NO” then don’t worry, because I have a very strong belief that there are a couple of actions, tips, and tricks, which can help you to enhance your level of confidence up-to-the full extent. This is not something you should consider as genetics and you don’t have to rely on other’s advice to improve your self-confidence. If you accept that you are not smart and competent enough, then this kind of opinion can be changed absolutely. No one can stop you to become a worthy of respect, who can do what he decides to do irrespective of what others say. It can be done through taking control of your life in your own hands and doing solid movements that expand your competence, can raise your self-confidence, without anybody’s help.
I have produced a comprehensive list of actions you can take to build your self-confidence. You can consider some of them are my preferred stuff that works well. You are not required to do all of them at once at all, but moving and adding gradually will give you a better feel. You can pick and choose the ones that appeal to you more.
Do remember! There is no particular order…
Upon wearing a nice, neat, and clean, properly ironed cultural stuff certainly will make you feel better about yourself. You’ll feel you-self a successful and presentable person who got ready to challenge the world.
Think positively (thought process)
Your actions always follow your thoughts. If you feel and your thoughts are negative, then no doubt, your actions, and behavior will be negative and with the bad outcomes. Thus you need to focus very clearly on your thought process. Try to think positively, not only for yourself but also for other fellows in the surroundings. Whenever you come across with the negative thoughts, do try to engage in some other productive activities. So, what you sow, shall you reap.
Act positively (actions)
Well done is better than well said. Although, thinking positively does matter, but acting and doing positively will bring more productive and fruitful results? There is a very popular saying is that actions speak louder than words. Your external actions (behavior) surely reflect what you are from the inner side. So, you are required to perform, act, and behave positively with your-self. Then, do remember to act positively with others you are to interact with.
My dear reader, do remember! Prior, proper, preparation prevents you from poor performance. For instance; the next week you are supposed to have a meeting with somebody in your office, university, or anywhere else. Think for a while, if you are not properly ready, then what will be your level of confidence. Surely, it will be very low, but if get prepared yourself properly with all you may need, then imagine what will be your level of self-confidence. You may find a hell of a difference between being prepared and not prepared. Whereas, if you have failed to prepare then be prepared to fail, that is a simple formula, professionals apply.
Daily bathing and shaving before starting your day will make you feel fresher and confident in interacting with your work-related activities and others such as fellows, bosses, customers, and even family members. What do think? Have you experienced the same before ever? So with this little thing, you improve your confidence. If you make it a habit then you may be productive every day in your tasks and activities. For instance, business-related activities, study-related activities, or even your leisure ones too.
Speak gently (slowly)
You know, even a very small thing can make a very big difference in your personality and self-confidence. As always, an individual seems to be an authority if he or she speaks slowly and gently. But you required to mind it, what slowly means? Speaking too slow is not meant here. Speaking slowly means you are giving ample time to the listeners to make them understand what you are talking about. Along with this, you will be having adequate time to articulate what you are supposed to share. Amazing! With this short and simple trick, you can enhance your self-confidence.
Set a small goal and achieve it
Setting small but achievable goals might help you to increase your confidence. Generally, you set unrealistic goals, and in the end, you are failed, then this situation will make you disturbed and low your confidence. Whereas, if you make a bigger task into smaller achievable junks, then such achievements will give a kick to your self-confidence. Thus, it is better to make small and achievable goals.
Empower yourself with knowledge
Please do remember that a person’s knowledge and an individual with no knowledge can be the same. A person with knowledge will be more confident that the person with lass knowledge. Thus, having proper and relevant knowledge can make a huge difference. You are required to acquire proper knowledge, and being knowledgeable will certainly contribute to the level of your self-confidence.
Now the question arises that how can you improve knowledge, depends on you much time you read, may the books, newspapers, and even articles. Setting aside even only 15-20 minutes may make you finish an average book in two months. So, make your habit to read every day, whatsoever the situation is. More knowledge means more confidence. Always try to learn something new but relevant to your field.
Keep your desk clear
Spending a few minutes in cleaning your desk from the mess seems to be a small and simple thing but it can make you feel more cleaned physically and mentally. When my work station gets messy then, the world around seems to be in chaos. Having a clean environment may offer you something that can contribute to your self-confidence.
I heard one of my classmates is doing her job from home and she has been doing this for a long time and I asked her how she maintains her focus by staying at the same place. so she replied that she praises her work station and treats it as a sacred place she cleans it daily and changes the settings weekly which gives her better visuals that help her to maintain focus for a longer period of time. so I guess this is a story of not one person but of many.
Get to know yourself
What do you think? Can you defeat your enemy unless you are aware of that? The expected answer to this question will be a big “No”. When you’re required to overcome an undesirable (negative) self-image and swap it with self-confidence, then consider your “self” as your enemy. Therefore, do know your-self first, for instance, your personality dimensions, values, interests, emotions, and moods. It is also good to know what makes you happy and what makes you upset. What lowers or boosts your self-confidence. Also identify what you can do the best, what is your talent, and doing what makes you happy, satisfied, and confident. Digging deeper within yourself will help you to know more about your-self, and knowledge will deliver you more confidence.
Be generous and kind
I know that being generous and kind to yourself and others too will paint a picture of you as a decent person, this will enhance your self-image to others in the surroundings. Other’s good judgment about you boosts your level of self-confidence. Doing something good for others while they are in need will make them more satisfied. Satisfaction is always in giving rather in taking. This satisfaction level may enhance your level of confidence.
How would you feel, when you feel you are competent in doing something, what you need to do. Consequently, you will feel no stress because you know that you are competent enough to do that. Wherever you are and whatever you are to do, you must know how to do it. If not then you must seek to increase your level of competency. The competency level can be increase based on that “what you are supposed to have versus what you have” the difference between the two will be an area of improvement. Thus, identify the area, where you lack, and then improve through various training sessions or chat with seniors or maybe your mentors.
Be problem solver rather highlighter
The habit of highlighting the problems, always make people low in their morale. Thus, if you are with such habits of launching complaints, then you must change your habit. Once you try to find out the solutions, chances are there, you may end up with the solutions. Generally, no one can claim that he or she does not come across problems. The environment will remain intact with issues and such issues may be of personal, professional, environmental, or organizational nature.
So, don’t let problems to take on your nerves. A mind with problems may not let you be confident to address them properly. a person with this habit of solving the problem first can be at ease all time, though there is no one is this world who never has had problems or never going to them again. So if you have this reality in front of you that problems are the basic part of life then, try to manage your personality with this fact and work hard to solve your problems at first stance so that they won’t last any longer.
Smile. Another trite one
As you know life has a very limited span and being remained in the issues or always carrying the issues at home may spoil your health. Thus, poor health may cause a poor confidence level. Therefore, SMILE, works, to smile on others will me you and others happy. If you are facing a problem, and that problem has a solution then don’t worry but SMILE. On the other side, if you have a problem and no solution, means something beyond your control, then don’t worry but SMILE.
Who gave you this handsome body and an intelligent mind? Did you ask for or have you purchased? You must be grateful to the giver or show some gratitude. How you can do that, I can tell you now. You show gratitude by taking care of your body. A 15-20 minutes exercise will keep you healthy. A healthy mind is found in a healthy body. when you try to meditate and work hard your body releases some toxins and relaxes your mind those toxins are better to be removed and your water intake after the exercise boosts your mind freshness which lasts longer and helps you to maintain focus on your work without getting stressed anymore.
Try to make this excersing thing the part of your life so that you can live longer and stay happy for a longer period of time.
Do the right things
You must remember that the confident persons live by their value system and make their choices based on the value system, even when it is very hard for them to and may not be certain in their top interests, but for the sake of the greater good. Your decisions and actions describe your personality and your character.
Do ask yourself, what is the best style of your-self that aspires you to be your best version. Although, seems tough and this is the last action you need to do and that means a short-term sacrifice on your side, but in the long run you’re going to appreciate your-self further and be proud of what you are.
My dear reader, if you are required to increase your level of self-confidence, then you need to make a solid commitment to yourself. The planned actions, tips, and tricks as discussed above can certainly help you to overcome your distress and boosting your self-confidence. Some of them no doubt will work well together to multiply the effect, even though others may work better in isolation. You are suggested to first identify the solution that best suits you and adhere to it.
Having a very perfect action plan daily, and realizing what you planned before, could aid in increasing your self-confidence. Therefore, plan and prioritize more effectively your day every day. Mind in, confidence is everything, even you are in any situation, but it is more needed when you face some catastrophic situation in personal or professional life. making your self happy actually gives the positive vibes to others as well. if you stay positive and keep smiling by looking at you many people around you will have the best day. this is not for one side but I must call it a win-win situation for you and your family.